Unfortunately, this post is about exactly what the title says – RIP is all over the place, today. I heard about Prince earlier this afternoon. I read about Chyna a few hours after that, and I’ve just been reading about the beating in a restroom at a Delaware high school that resulted in the death of a teen girl – #RIPAmy.
Death is never easy for those surviving. It’s especially tough to deal with when the death is unexpected, sudden, malicious. As I was reading about Amy, my heart was in a flutter state; not a good flutter, but a waking flutter, and an anxious one. Without knowing any of the circumstances surrounding this tragedy, I believe that all parties played a part in this whole ordeal. Someone likes someone else. That someone else is already in like with another someone else. Jealously stirs. Someone lies, someone spies, someone tells the truth, someone gets mad, someone takes it too far, then it really spirals out of control into a very dark place. See how easily that can happen? Unsuspecting, at first, right? But, very quickly, it spun to crazy.
To my daughters, every daughter, every young girl, every older lady, every female, every boy, every young man, every older fellow, every human being… one life is not worth another. Individuals are priceless, one-of-a-kind creations. We don’t always do the right things, but we must try. Boys, I don’t care what your friends, girls, or others say – it’s not kewl to have girls fighting over you. You’re making the girls look cheap, and you’re making yourself look like a selfish jerk. Girls, the same goes for you letting guys fight over you. You’re making the boys look like animals after a piece a meat, which is exactly how the boys are seeing you. In either situation, no one is respected. Stop it!
You. Yes, YOU are precious. I don’t know this because of your personality or because of something someone else said about you. I know this because I know Who created you. Whether you believe it or not, truth is truth. Every single cell, held together to form your body, every hair on your head, down to the skin on the bottom of your feet… precious. Don’t let anyone make you feel like you’re not. Don’t let anyone degrade your stature by dragging you into situations that don’t amount to anything good. Respect yourself. Don’t accept disrespect in any type of relationship or friendship. Be good to yourself. Love yourself. If you don’t know how or where to begin… write to me (firstname.lastname@example.org). I will help you. I am completely serious. No joke. This cannot continue. If I have the power to help someone see how awesomely beautiful and special s/he is, that’s what I will do. We need more of that.
So, I leave you with this: if you’re in a situation that you know, deep down, is not what God wants for you (what you want for you, want your parents want for you), remove yourself from it. If you feel threatened, seek help – immediately – from authorities who can protect you. If you need to talk through it, figure out your next step, need some know-how, or are just confused – don’t let it fester – tell someone.
And, lastly, there are many things people mistake for love. There is but one definition of love and here it is:
…no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I’m bankrupt without love.
Love never gives up.
Love cares more for others than for self.
Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have.
Love doesn’t strut,
Doesn’t have a swelled head,
Doesn’t force itself on others,
Isn’t always “me first,”
Doesn’t fly off the handle,
Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others,
Doesn’t revel when others grovel,
Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,
Puts up with anything,
Trusts God always,
Always looks for the best,
Never looks back,
But keeps going to the end.